What do you do when one of your children wounds you so deeply that you feel as though your heart will never mend? Do you just go on, acting as though nothing were wrong for fear of total alienation? Or do you let them know your pain and thereby give them the “power” that comes with knowing that they can control you to come degree?
I don’t have the answers to these questions and wish I did.
I received a book today in the mail entitled “365 Words of Well-Being for Mothers” by Rachel Snyder. I thought I would share a word a day with you. Perhaps between the lot of us we can find the answers to my questions.
ABUNDANCE
Is there anything as big, as full, as rich and round as mothering? It all seems so huge, too large to get your arms around and too endless to even try. Blink your eyes and you are plunged into a sea of love with the power to wash you away. The responsibility is enormous. The rewards are off thecharts. The nights go on for years and the days fly by at the speed of light. You suddenly need more energy and more time and more patience than you ever dreamed of – and somehow, you find it. You feel feelings that are deeper and sharper than any you’ve known, and you wonder if you will come out alive. The highs! The lows! Your plate is heaped with more sorrow and more pain and more unbridled happiness and more laughter, and like a kid in a candy store, you keep gobbling as much as you can. Whatever abundance mothering hand you, you always come out with more.
4 comments:
That depends on what happens. Some things should be let go, depending on age and such. And some things they need to know.
When I was six or seven I told my mom I hated her. I was mad, throwing a fit, which I really didn't do ofter. She went quiet, tears ran down her face, and she turned and walk away from me. I knew how bad it hurt her and I tried everything to make her feel better, I immediately regretted it. I've never told anyone I've hated them again. It was a life lesson I learned on how badly words can hurt.
So sometimes, it's a good thing. Other times... Not so good.
~Lily
I may have to get that book. It sounds like it can answer some of my questions as well having to deal with some of my 11 year olds moods.
hang in there it will get better
Deb
I don't know the answer to that one sorry. I'm sure it will all come right eventually, you just let her know that you will 'be there' for her, you're entitled to feel hurt though. take care x
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